On Why “The Bachelor” Pains My Soul. Really.

I sat down tonight to write a follow-up post on the awesome Anne Lamott quote I posted earlier this week.

So much to mine from her wise words.

Yet, I’m embarrassed to say that – while doing a little research for the post – I turned on ABC’s “The Bachelor” for some background noise, and unfortunately found just that – “noise.”

I don’t want to blog about The Bachelor.

That’s not what this blog is about.

But desperate times call for desperate measures.

Maybe it’s because I’m nearing 40 {I’ll be 39 next month}.

Maybe it’s because vapid comments and painfully insecure girls hurt my heart.

Maybe the wrinkles and slowed metabolism that come with age are worth their weight in wisdom. {I’m still evaluating that one}.

Maybe when a train misses its turn entirely, you just LONG to set it right.

I'm Afraid You've Missed the Curve

Regardless… I submit some thoughts for those who find themselves – in any way – relating to the unfortunate “bachelorettes” on this show.

1.  Your problem isn’t cosmetic, but foundational.

It's Not Me It's You

While the thrill of national exposure {and some more than others!} is enticing, 10 years from now, you’ll look back and shake your head at what you TOLERATED.

It’s amazing what you’ll put up with in the moment.

Hindsight speaks volumes.

Only put up with people who are worth it.

It’s important to learn this distinction.

If you have to compete for a guy, he’s not even close to your league.

It's Not Your Train

Real guys are into you, period.

The best bachelors fly well under the radar.

Humility is among the handsomest of virtues.

If you don’t yet realize this, you have some REAL soul work to do.

{But, to be fair, almost all people in their 20s fall into this category.}

2. All that glitters isn’t gold.

J.R.R. Tolkien

When you’re young, you put a lot of credence into “what’s on paper.”

I’m referring to degrees, job status, family standing, etc.

That’s a recipe for disaster.

People who look good on paper don’t live their lives on paper.

Their real lives may reflect their paper lives, and if so, more power to them.

But paper is paper.

Life happens where the rubber hits the road.

Make sure your tires are ready.

3.  Love at first sight is for the birds.

Real love is forged in real life.

Call it destiny

Call it B.S. if you ask me.

First impressions are just that.

Stickiness through thick and thin is the real deal.

And it has nothing to do with appearance, bikini bodies or “amazing” dates.

4.  Wise up – you’re worth more than this!

And you don’t have to prove it to anybody.

Only time can teach you this one, but it’s all-important.

Even if that means that you don’t get the final rose.

All that means is that it’s coming from the wrong sender.

Thank your lucky stars, waltz right out of that Bachelor mansion, and embark on your real life.

There’s a reason fairy tales belong in the fantasy genre.

Welcome to the real world.

You’re not living it.

Trust me on this one.

Experience has to count for something.

Claire Signature

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